Finding lasting love with the “right” person is high on most people’s wish list. Finding your ideal partner is just the first challenge knowing whether they are a “keeper” or one to leave before they do any damage is the second and if that wasn’t difficult enough the third and longest challenge is how to maintain a loving inter-dependent relationship over time and through the many significant challenges of daily living.
There appears to be a huge mismatch between the romantic fairy story of “Happy Ever After” and the reality for many married couples who find the reality of being married to their spouse very different than their ideal. This puts a huge strain on a couple’s relationship from the outset. For many couples the problems start to manifest themselves quite quickly after all the razzmatazz of the ceremony is over.
So why do couples say nothing?
We all operate in three-time dimensions; the past, the present and the future. Where we choose to focus our attention has a profound effect on the quality of our lives.
Families come in all shapes and sizes. At the heart of family life is love and when things go wrong it is the unconditional love which makes it bearable. Unconditional doesn’t mean soft!
Learning to love who you are wobbly bits and all, is something many of us find difficult.